Let’s talk about sabotage…what an interesting word, right??
What is sabotage, why do we do it, and how can we stop sabotaging ourselves?
I was talking to a friend the other day and she was telling me how amazing everything is going in her life, in her marriage, and then she found herself sabotaging.
It made me think about my own life, and how many times I create self-sabotage!
Things are going along amazing and great and then I will purposely do something, or it SEEMS like I’m doing it on purpose to sabotage my progress.
For example, I’ll know what I need to eat and do to become healthier or to reach some other goal and I just won’t do it!
What is that??? What causes us to not do the things that will serve us, why do we procrastinate? What is sabotage?
In my experience, sabotage is when we don’t follow our gut! When we are not aligned, we sabotage. When our thinking, our being state, and our actions are not aligned, we are in the “perfect” place to self-sabotage.
For example, with my friend, things were going great in her business, her marriage and her life, and yet she started to self-sabotage. So I asked her questions to find out what wasn’t in alignment, what was underneath the procrastination, the sabotage.
And it turned out that she had a limiting belief that she couldn’t have it all. She was raised to think she couldn’t have everything go well at once, so she started sabotaging to keep her limited belief as being true. It was too weird to have her marriage, her business, and her life all going well. It was so unfamiliar, that she sabotaged so she could be comfortable in her limitations.
Crazy right?? Why would you do that, because you prefer to have everything go well, right? BUT her comfort zone was things don’t all go well at once, so she had to create that situation to get back to being comfortable.
It happens in business a lot too, I’m sure you’ve noticed. Maybe it’s someone else, maybe it’s you…but we all do it from time to time. You have this goal ahead of you and you know what you need to do to get there and you just need to keep going. But you get so uncomfortable, you just stop doing it, you start procrastinating, you are out of alignment.
I had a client who did this once. She was on track rocking and rolling and suddenly she sabotaged the whole thing. Something in her felt not worthy of the results she was getting and because felt misaligned and unworthy, she created a situation where she was more comfortable, more aligned with what she wanted unconsciously.
So crazy, right???
So what’s the cure, Sherina? I’m sure you’re asking!
So the way we relieve, cure, shift sabotage is to do our inner work. To really do the alignment work within us, aligning our thinking, our feelings, and our beingness to our vision, because when we do that and take action we reach our visions and goals!
You will notice that you will sabotage less and when you do, you now have the tools to help you breakthrough. If nothing else, you notice what you are doing, so you can tweak your actions bit by bit if that fits more to your lifestyle.
So notice yourself, where are you sabotaging? Where are you out of alignment?
I watch myself constantly, where am I in alignment, where am I out of alignment. I am constantly watching myself so I can shift out of self-sabotage.
For example, if I am committed to be a healthy person, am I making good food choices, or am I choosing fried foods every day?
Get really clear on what’s aligned and what’s not.
Asking yourself the question, “What is aligned and what’s not?” on a regular basis.
It’s a really important thing to look at when it comes to your life, your business and your relationships. If you are not aligned, what you are trying to build will be hard and painful.
If you are aligned, then it will definitely be easier, more fun, and joyful. Self-sabotage is cured by creating alignment with your vision, your thoughts, your feelings, your beingness, and your actions all are way more powerful when aligned with your vision.
There is no chance for self-sabotage to jump in!!!